Trick or Treat! Why is this Holiday such an intriguing one? Is it because we all have a frightful side to us or maybe even a bit of an evil side to us? We are human after all and when you think about it, we all have the capacity to either act out in an evil way or choose to restrain ourselves from causing self harm or harm to others. But it is to be frightened and to do the scaring, all depends on who you ask. It is the minds mysterious ways that I think makes this Holiday so appealing.
I think it also gives some of us the opportunity to dress up and feel like we can act like that one character for the night or even week depending on all the Halloween parties that you attend. It may make you forget a little bit of the bummer side of life and escape for just a bit. It is liberating in a way to be seen differently and also to play the part of a confident character. Its all good for the self esteem- well, unless you choose a super scary something that you enjoy portraying only.
It's also a great way to have amazing family time! To dress up and to partake in the traditions of having fun with the costumes, candy, and tricks. It can definitely bring families closer and allows them to see the creativity in their kids. Parents may discover that their child has a great talent and vice versa.
All around, Halloween is a fun and unique holiday! Stay safe and have a ton of fun...
With the divorce rate at 65%, I wonder if couples go into their relationships now a days thinking that the possibility of getting divorced is extremely high and indirectly expect it to maybe happen to them. I believe you too can win at Love!
But how can a couple prevent the possible or impossible inevitable? Or is it something that is preventable or is it already written in our destinies to divorce and meet up with someone else that is truly our soul-mate? I would love to think that a relationship based on the notion of pure Love, will most definitely survive! Even if it is a new relationship that began from the outcome of a divorce in the first place. It just has to because, with Love, all things are possible. Love gives you the courage, understanding, fortitude, intuition, ability to listen, and the ability to be totally present for yourself and for your life partner. Anyone can master or become familiar with these are critical areas in their lives. I am truly convinced that amazing things come from a place of love, but remember that there must exist a very healthy love of self first before we can even share it with anyone else.
Love has to be something that is understood by you and your partner and what that means to both of you. Remember that we are all unique in our definition of what Love means based on who taught us what that emotion truly means. When courting the person that you think is the one, we usually don't get to see all the underneath stuff that has been stored away due to painful experiences and or traumatic events in the family, school, and or community. Many of these issues and experiences can surface after we feel secure in our marital union, but don't think that your partner will always be ready to understand and or willing to take the journey with you to resolution. Love can do that for you, if you have been committed in true total unconditional Love of the person you met and said you would be there for not matter what! Love can move mountains and restore your faith in you in order for you to live in peaceful mental tranquility. Issues of trust, abandonment, not worthiness, unloved, and or physical trauma can all be overcome if the relationship is sustained with the strong hold of Love.
Survival also suggests that there are going to be small or big challenges in your journey together. We are after all, evolving humans learning to co-exist harmoniously in this vast world of distractions. No, I am not suggesting that all distractions are negative, it's how we manage and pro-actively decide how we choose to be distracted or not distracted that will make all the difference in the world. Distractions can be many things. It can be how you notice that he or she smiles or doesn't smile like you thought she or he did. It could be the demands from work, your family, your friends, social media, or you just feeling unbalanced due to an illness, financial, or religious stress.
A few things to consider that makes our relationship flourish.
1. Always show gratitude- for any little thing that they do, their smile, their health, their food, and etc.
2. Listen and be present for them- put away your phone, turn off the TV, ipad, etc and truly listen. It shows sincere interest, concern, and love.
3. Stay unconditional- in other words, don't compliment her so that she will do something in return, just do it because it comes from your heart with sincerity and love. 4. Don't try to be right all the time- the relationship will strain if most of your conversations turn into power struggles. It's better to allow each point of view and then allow things to resolve themselves out accordingly.
5. Practice sincere honesty- with the little and big things of course, but there are spiritual things that you should be honest about also; for example, don't just do or undertake any job, project, or money endeavor because you think your partner wants you to, instead, be honest and tell your spouse that its not what you want to do. Or if you think there is a situation you can handle and you know you really can't, just be honest about it. It will save you a lot of heart ache in the long run.
I wish you the best on your super special journey of Love with one another. Please feel free to contact me and my wife and I would be more than open to share some of our thoughts with any challenges you may be facing. After all, it is you who ultimate decides what your fate will be.
Our lives are a mystery, and it seems like its more of a mystery when you find out something new about yourself that you thought you would never experience.
I pride myself in being a spiritual seeker, and there are times or have been times when I felt stuck or felt like I could no longer grow anymore as an awakened person. Wrong! We are constantly evolving, peeling back a layer of ourselves to discover the beauty within ourselves. Yes beauty because along with an incredible capacity to do right, we have a huge capacity to cause harm. The only thing is, sometimes we don't know when we are doing it and why we are doing it. Sometimes something so strong has to come your way to challenge your inner knowing, your way of seeing the world.
I truly welcome those moments now because at almost 50, I am open to just about anything that can help me live to the great human capacity and potential that was gifted to us by the great Divine! I want to have these moments help awaken me spiritually so that I can share them with others so that they too can try and live in an awakened state and not in a closed minded, closed hearted and too attached to everything. Being dependent on certain things, people, and technology can destroy your sense of now, your sense of allowing others to really know the real you. It may even block your prosperity and abundance and keep you from the beautiful life that you and your loved ones deserve.
I am so grateful for moments that challenge that part of my being, the part that reminds me that I was made from the same particles that make up the Universe, just as you were as well!