We know many of us have taken on this trait in one way or another during our life time. Statistics say that children are feeling even more pressure to be perfect these days. More children are finding ways to self regulate the negative symptoms from trying to live up to unreasonable expectations placed on them by their parents, society, friends, and worst of all themselves! Being perfect is the goal and the fear of not meeting that expectation is wreaking havoc on their soul.
So what do some kids do when they can't handle the pressure? They try to cope with it by any means necessary! They may turn the focus of caring into being bossy and controlling. Love and caring seem more like selfishness and greed. And if they can't deal with not fitting in by their unacceptable behavior, they usually turn to self medication. Maybe over-eating, drinking, and worse- illegal drugs!
We must empower our children by making them feel like they are already enough! That they are the miracle and that we will love them no matter what! We must still guide them toward excellence, but not to be perfect! The only way we can do this is to assess where you are with how you feel about perfectionism. You are in a perfect position to live toward excellence, but you must know the difference.
Check out the following video that describes perfectionism so perfectly- http://youtu.be/TTbnBmwKuCI
With that said, "Put a little MaxPower into your life!"