I know you've heard this statement a time or two. And if you haven't, it won't be too long before you do. What does it mean? According to some people that I've asked what the term "Gay" meant,, they've stated that it has different meanings depending on how you say it. "Really, like what?" I had to ask.
"Well it could mean- stupid, silly, weak, or
endearing. It's also a way to put a person down in a joking manner."
When we started talking, they felt justified in why they used the word so freely, but when they took the time to describe the use of the word, they understood that the receiver could interpret it in any way they want to and or what and how it means to them. In other words, they realized that it didn't make sense to use the word "Gay" because of the negative connotations attached to it even though they didn't intend it that way. It dawned on them that that person, the one hearing or receiving the comment, is human with feelings and emotions, and that they may even be Gay or someone they love may be. Imagine if that person dealt with losing a friend or a loved one to suicide due to continuos harassment? How do you think they would be feeling? Do you think they might react to you a bit defensive or offended?
I know that we may have never meant any disrespect by saying a simple "that's so Gay" comment, but even if it doesn't cause disrespect, do you think it can trigger other painful negative emotions in people? Of course it can and it usually does!
The struggle for acceptance and understanding continues for Gay people's all around the world and I believe we can show love and compassion by refraining to use the phrase "That's so Gay!" Instead, reject it when people use it and use it as a teaching moment of love and acceptance.
With that said, "Put a little MaxPower into your life!"