Have you ever had those moments when the world seems to have betrayed you? Or when you feel like everything negative everyone is saying must mean that it's about you? Well, you're definitely not alone! Many people on this planet feel like they are losing it, yes- losing their minds from time to time. The popular TV show 20/20 even did a segment about it this past weekend. They showed how road rage, public personalities, and professional athletes are losing their minds and throwing rage filled tantrums and resorting to violence. In the US alone, 1000 deaths in the year could be traced back to road rage.
Why do people do this? Is it because of overwhelming stressors they are facing on a day to day basis? Do you think it's the pressure from the job and home and the expectations placed on them? Do you think it's because they take things personally? I believe it's a combination o all three and probably other issues that can be lumpt in with stress.
After conducting much self research and internal work of my mind, I am so fortunate to feel that I can say that I have come to a place where I have the ability to respond to a situation and not react. The difference is in the time! Reaction is an immediate thing and respond is taking your time to assess what's going on and making a decision based on what's best. Don't get me wrong, a person can still respond negatively, but it won't be As quickly. Often though, a person who knows how to respond Will not use violence as a person who reacts would..
Another example would be a person deliberately using opinion or perception of something of importance to you to use against you. They Usually resort to derogatory language or inappropriate psychotic de-characterization of your family members without knowing the facts to get a reaction from you. Again, I am fortunate enough to have learned the important skill of not taking anything personal which was made popular by Don Luis Miguel in his book "The Four Agreements". Knowing that I don't work from a place of ego- makes it easy to allow things like that just dissipate in the wind like vapor! What a phenomenal skill to have. It is so refreshing to know that when people react in a certain way toward me, it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with their own high sense of instability! Until they master the great skill of not taking anything personal, they will always point the finger and blame everyone for their misery, thus reacting in rage and ultimately becoming violent where he/she risks their lives or the lives of others. Super Victim Mentality!
You too can have the power of Responding and not Reacting! The energy is in your mind, and it is up to you how you will use it- no one else can determine that for you- ever!
Withy that said, "Put a little MaxPower into your life!"