Why is it that so many people place their value on what other people think of them? Is it natural to seek validation or is it a learned behavior? Do we seek to be respected or to be accepted? Do we seek to live in love or to live in fear? Do we seek to live in peace or in chaos? It really is a choice and an agreement you make with yourself!
When you seek the approval from other people when you are learning anything, we call it constructive feedback which is information that helps us grow. But we soon learn that we are okay to learn and we take responsibility for that learning. It's a healthy transition toward independence. Usually, you can progress without having to seek out any negative repercussions against anyone because you empower yourself to live constructively! You are seeking a life of love and courage. You are seeking a life of wisdom and compassion. You are seeking a life of service and contribution!
On the Other Hand:
When we blast other people from a place of vengeance, resentment, anger, and hate you truly are only blasting yourself! You are stuck in a state of victimhood because we feel that others were responsible for our shortcomings! Blasting away keeps you addicted to the blasting and therefore stuck in a vicious cycle of self hate and eventually self destruction. Every time you want to fix others by passing extreme judgement, it comes back to you. Why, because we will never have the will or power to control others. We can never change them! They are on their own journey...
Spiritual freedom comes from accepting that you aren't ever going to be perfect in a human dimension, but you are perfect in the eyes if God! This doesn't absolve you from the consequences of your negative and destructive behaviors, it just prolongs it until you take full responsibility of your own agreements!
With that said, "Put a little MaxPower into your life!"