Don’t we all know someone we can thank that has Empowered us in a positive way and we are forever grateful to them? If you haven’t had anyone like this yet, don’t worry- your time will come. I want to dedicate this Blog to my beautiful and wonderful sister -in- law Gemma because she gave me the privilege and honor of seeing her raw and true spirit days before she departed this physical earth. Today is her birthday and I would like to take a moment to commemorate her beautiful life while here on this phenomenal planet.
Gemma loved to live. She loved to live, she loved to laugh, she loved to eat, and she loved to see others happy. She was my lovely wive’s sister so I got to see them interact with each other from a place of Love and understanding. She was a great listener and very compassionate. She made the slightest gestures just to make you know that you were special to her. She was the glue within her group of friends. They all adored her and felt at home when she was around for them. Gem took on the role as big sister pretty serious, so serious that she was like a seragate mother to her siblings. She had earned their respect and it was returned.
I found it interesting and especially heartwarming to see her around her daughter as well. She was a proud mom, a loving mom, and a caring mom. Katrina was her world and wanted to give her all that she could. I still recall the warm and loving ways that she looked into her daughter’s eyeswhen she was born and whenever we came around them. I believe she was in awe that God had granted her with such a lovely gift. We came around them often because she was the first niece and grandchild around the family. Katrina brought joy to everyone, but she meant the world to her mommy. She knew exactly how to caress her, soothe her, and to make her smile. She handled Trina with unconditional love and Trina received it so well that she was such a Loving baby. As Trina got older, she often shared her with us cause she found herself getting tired and irratible but she didn’t know why.
Unfortunately, but fortunately for heaven, Gemma was diagnosed with Lupus after she gave birth to her daughter Katrina. Lupus is a blood disease and there are no known cures for it yet. At the time, about 30 years ago, little was known about how to help those afflicted by this disease and it would take its toll on her way too fast. It is at this time when Gemma started confiding in me about her daily physical and mental struggles with this illness. She was not afraid of living and she definitely was not afraid of dying but she was deeply heartbroken because she knew what she was leaving behind. Yes, she knew that her days were limited and was torn to pieces about it. Until her last days, Gem always kept loving and kept trying to be as authentic as she could be. The Spiritual strength that she displayed and shared with me was indescribably touching and impactful to my own soul. She was honest about her pain, her desire to live, but knew that death was close. She cried so much when she felt that she was no longer able to give of herself the way she wanted to to her daughter and husband, she felt she had no other choice but to surrender her life to God.
Gemma did not go quietly- she left a legacy that would never ever have anyone be quiet about her. It hurt so so much to lose her, and it was especially difficult for those around her to pick up the pieces. Things would never ever be the same without her. But, what would be the same was the unconditional love and promises that we made to her about her daughter and family. Gemma taught us to have courage while living, to have love and compassion for everyone, to be in the moment because each moment is precious.
Happy Birthday Gemma and Thank you for Being in my Life...