How many times have you heard about children who fall throught the cracks? What does this normally mean? Well, the experts state that children who go through life just getting by or squeezing by without getting too noticed have the tendency to be forgotten and neglected. These children tend to exist in the same way in their home environments and for the most part, at school as well.
It is also said that some students can choose to go from one extreme to the other in terms of their behaviors and choices. For example, a child that feels that he or she is not getting the attention they deserve, can compensate by joining sports, band, drama, choir, and other miscellaneous clubs to feel like they belong. On the flip side, a student can fall into a deep pit of resentment which usually turns into inward anger which can lead to acting out in a highly negative manner to compensate for his or her feelings of not being seen or heard.
Although many schools have done a lot to address the "fall through the cracks" type of kids, there is a great concern that remains with the continual dismissal of school counselors and other mental health professionals that can make a huge impact with this group.
This is why we were driven to write this book, "Let's Do this", to to shine a bright light on what can possibly be the consequences for a child that lacks guidance from family, especially from their mother and father. We, as counselors,
came in contact with many children who divulged to us that they were convinced and had the attitude that their parents didn’t care about them so why should they. We were able to work with some students who understood why it was critical for them to take responsibility for their own behavior, but unfortunately there were too many kids who felt that
it was too late for them and instead took the path of self destruction.
We believe that this book can be a tool which can proactively help students, parents, and educators in becoming more aware of what can or is happening to students who feel that the world has given up on them.
Here is a sample of Chapter One:
ON MY OWN!
While pointing a brand new pellet gun at a doll that had been thrown high in the air, Kenny pulled the trigger and hit the doll several times with pin point accuracy.
“Take that, and that,” yelled Kenny.
The pellet gun was a gift that he had begged his dad to buy him
for weeks. Kenny had stolen the doll from someone’s lawn that day as he walked home from school.
He was home alone after school once again and it would be hours before his father or step mom
would be showing up from work. This had become a normal everyday thing for Kenny.
He would usually be home from school around three in the afternoon and be alone until about 7:30pm. His
thirteen year old uncle David, who went to the same school, would usually come over and they would invent new ways to get into trouble or just sat around and wasted time.
David was already well known in the neighborhood as a bad kid, especially because of the incident that had occurred a year before when he set fire to his mom’s room. The fire department had reported that someone had burned down the curtains and that it didn’t look like an accident.
David had told them that he had fallen asleep and one of the candles had fallen over close to the curtains which had caused them to catch on fire. He did not tell them that he had tried to burn the cat with the hot wax, and while trying to do so, the curtains had caught on fire which caused the room to go up in flames.
David, til’ this day, has denied having anything to do with the incident. Everyone in the family
knew what really happened, but they gave the fire department and the police a different story. David’s mom
claimed that someone had broken in and tried to set the house on fire. Once again, David was let off the hook
by his mother, and he received no punishment.
On occasion, David would have cigarettes that he would take from his mom’s purse and smoked them with Kenny. There were also those times when Kenny would swipe a beer or two from his Dad’s garage and share them with David, or he would just drink them on his own.
This is how it was for Kenny, day after day, week after week without any adult supervision. He knew no other way, and had to figure out how to survive on his own. He rarely did his homework, but when he did, no one was there to help him. Most of the time after school, he roamed the neighborhood or rode his dirt bike in the nearby hills,
sometimes on other neighbor’s lawns.
Kenny’s punishment’s were usually a, “Don’t do that,” or a, “Stop being such a dummy,”from his father and occasionally from his step mom Sarah, he would never be sent to his room or had his things taken away from
him. Kenny knew very well that he could get away with almost anything because his parents would just let him off
He was now eleven years old, and three of those years were spent at home alone every day after school. His mother had left him and his father four years prior without leaving any type of note or reason why. It really affected Kenny Sr. as he turned to drinking heavily ever since that day. Kenny felt abandoned and struggled to find a way to talk to anyone about it. He wanted attention and he didn’t care about how he went about getting it.
A year later, Kenny was introduced to his new mom Sarah. It wasn’t long before she moved in with him and his dad permanently. She was young, and drank just much as Kenny Sr. She often ignored Kenny and would leave
the parenting to his father and the only responsibility she had was to drive him to school.
Kenny was soon to be twelve years old and was on a fast track to a shaky and uncertain future. But this is only the start of this story…
Witht that said, "Put a little MaxPower Into your life!"