Is it? I bet it would go better with a couple of cookies and a glass of your favorite beverage. Really, is Love all we need as humans to have a better existence here on planet Earth? Or does it depend on whether or not we've ever truly learned what Love is or how it was defined for us while we were little tykes trying to make sense of it all?
Recently, I was counseling with a close acquaintance of mine because she felt that she had done or said some things to sabotage her relationship with someone she really liked. She was very distraught because she shared with me that she had experienced one too many relationships gone bad and that she wanted to make a change with this guy so she finally let him in emotionally and physically.
Yes, she broke down some painful walls and allowed herself to feel, to bond with this special person in her life, but all along, she was telling herself that she did not deserve him and that sooner or later, he was going to leave her. As the law of attraction states, as one thinks and feels, one manifests those results. Sure enough, several weeks into the relationship, they hit a bump in the road that caused them to question their trust and respect for one another. It was a major bump, but out of respect for her privacy, I will just state that it would be very difficult for a non-trusting couple to get over and to move on, especially when one person is dealing with deep seated self doubt and unworthiness.
Well,everything came to a head, they had a heated emotional discussion and she said some things that made the break up even easier for him to decide. Self sabotage because she couldn't stand to know whether he truly would leave her after he found out that she was still working through some emotional and psychological baggage. She was more content in making sure she took the lead and then feel terribly guilty about it and commence to beat herself up emotionally even more. Thus, making the cycle of broken relationships much stronger.
I was honored that she called me to speak to her about it. It was very tough to understand her because she couldn't stop crying over the decision she had made. She rattled on about feeling guilty and what she had said and etc. until I finally got her to admit why she really did what she did to him. We got to the core of the issue. She said that she was afraid that she was not worthy of being loved and that he would eventually leave her because every important person in her life had left her. I told her I was very proud of her for having the courage to admit and say what her biggest fear was.
If you've ever felt this way, isn't it gut wrenching? I know I went through similar emotions and boy was it ever difficult to discuss this with anyone.
But how can you want to Love someone when this person had never truly known the true meaning of Love? Do you think that the work must start with her, to realize Love through spiritual or religious forces prior to getting into any relationship because if she doesn't have any love for self, how can she give it or share it with someone else?
It's unfortunate that some of us humans have to take the back roads approach to discovering what love is and what it feels like before we can take the long journey with someone? But its totally okay to do so, as long as you know that Love is something that is much bigger than yourself and that Love is worthiness, kind, forgiving, special, and all of the other great feelings associated with it, it doesn't matter how you acquire it- as long as you do! You were brought forth into this amazing reality out of it's love for existence and it's miraculous might. The same thing that makes up this Beautiful Earth, is the same thing that you and I are made of. And if Love is one of the awesome ingredients that created all of this, then Love is you! You find Love in finding your greatness and knowing that you have a connection with the power of life itself. It's the super infinite fuel for the soul...and the soulmate for everyone is out there to be discovered and connected to at the perfect time! Believe it- you truly are Love...