Will you need the force to help you cope after you figure out that forcing anything to happen almost always has the opposite effect? Can you really be happy if someone is insisting that you do something against your will? Can you fake your way until something gives? Absolutely, but at what price?
I'm sure you've heard the stories of how parents forced their kids to take piano lessons, soccer, or even church classes only to leave a bitter taste in their children's life. How about the stories of arranged marraiges of how two people are practically forced to end up together because a culture dictates it? Is there real true everlasting love in this type of arrangement? Perhaps there is, but I would have to imagine that those who felt love for someone else other than the person they were forced to marry will always have that thought in their mind of "what if" and maybe not allowing them to focus 100% of themselves unconditionally to their spouse.
How about stories of people who try to force friendship on people they be-friended only to place massive and unrealistic expectations on that friendship? Do you think that person will want to be friends with someone who is forcing a friendship on them based on unrealistic expectations. For instance, if you be-friend someone and place a ton of faith on that person, but one day they put you in an unsafe predicament would you still want to be friends with them? For example, you genuinely became friends with someone because you felt genuinely safe based on what you knew about them at first, but then this friend took you to a party where massive drug and arm deals were taking place. What would you think then? Hopefully it would be a huge red flag situation where you would say, "So sorry but catch you on the flip side!" You know you have to take measures to keep yourself and your family safe. If you stay friends with that person long enough- who knows what the consequences may be, but we can predict that they won't be too positive!
Invite the positive into your life- it is your choice! Make choices that will benefit your health and sanity. If you feel forced to do anything- re-evaluate the situation before it gets out of hand. As for parents, I know you mean well by getting your kids involved, but the research shows that it's healthier for them to find their own passions and then you can fully support that passion! It's their life- dont try to live yours through them. Encourage them to be active, creative, and loving by modeling that behavior for them instead of forcing or imposing it on them. The unconditional love and support that you give to them will be returned to you ten-fold!
Withy that said, "Put a little MaxPower into your life!"
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