Have you read it? It’s a decent read so far “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck” by Mark Manson. Go figure- a catchy title by a Manson- lol. I like what its saying because it reminds us about how Society has blasted us with why its important to always give a fuck about this and that. Go to school, get good grades, get a decent job, get good pay, and maybe some day you can own a house, a car, a boat, a motorcycle, and all the fancy things that can impress your neighbors. The author emphasizes how after so many years of hearing all of this, we tend to believe it and get caught up in this crazy loop of believing this crap and then crashing because we become so freakin anxious if we don’t attain it. Dang, that was tough to even write it cause in a way its true.
I have worked with couples who’s partner has completely gone off the rails to give too much attention to the “goodies” of life but has forgotten that the true goodies of life are free! The attainment of stuff has become the end goal for many and if one of the partners in a relationship suddenly realizes that there are more important things than to have the mansion with 10 rooms and 4 garages, the order or cycle of giving a f*ck has been broken which can cause a bit of tension. “What, you don’t want the mansion, the yacht, the vacations, and fancy art work?”, but I did all this for you and now you’ve changed! “I never asked for any of these things!” “But I thought it would make you happy?!” F*ck, f*ck, f*cking sh*t! You don’t love me anymore... Lol. But I’m sure that you get the picture of how opposite they could be thinking.
But wait, the author is not saying not to go after the mansions, the golden car, the fancy clothes, and etc. He is simply sharing that if you are not feeling authentic about the person you are becoming and its giving you way more trouble in terms of messing with your brain and physical self, there is another way! He is saying, “Don’t give a F*ck!” If the job you have is paying six figures or a nice to live on income, appreciate it and don’t give a F*ck if you don’t becoming an instant millionaire- but do focus on the things that matter and are free like love, respect, kindness, caring, friendships, and oxygen. The not giving a F*ck strategy doesn’t mean no to care at all, it means that you get to choose what is truly truly important to you. It is a philosophy or a way of thinking that can free you from the brain chains that we have worn for a long time due to the capitalist consumer thinking that we have been brought up on. It can free you in a way in where it will allow you the time to stop and smell the fresh fish at a local market or the fresh flowers at a garden. It’s also not saying that you can’t strive for financial freedom, but you can do it in a way in which it fits your way of being.
With Lots of F*cking Love,