You are directly responsible! You are responsible for everything that happens in your life. For everything you are happy with and everything you are not happy with. You simply must accept the fact, that everything that is around you right now is the direct effect of who you are, of who you were to that very moment when you made your choices.
“Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery; None but ourselves can free our minds.” - Bob Marley Redemtion Song
Until you can grasp this concept, you will live your life as a VICTIM. You will be someone who will always BLAME and point the finger at someone else for your circumstances as to why you are the way you are, the way you look, the way you act, your addictive personality, why someone left you, why someone doesn't want to be friends with you, why noone understands you, why this, why that, etc.!
To these type of people, peace of mind and peace of life depends on someone else or something outside of themselves. They always blame the weather, the money, the location, the people, the rules, the size, you name it- they will blame it! The tragedy is that many people never understand that peace comes to them only when they create it. That's the power we all have, to make choices our of our own free will and to take responsibility for them. Especially if you are an adult... Many children understand this concept well and live a strong confident life because they learn to take responsibility for their actions.
The Cause and Effect of people not taking responsibility for their actions is usually followed by intense negative and traumatic events. Why? Well, keep in mind that if people blame others for their actions, it is possible that they may want to retaliate in a negative manner against anyone they can pin the blame on. Without a doubt, the tendency to make other people's live's miserable is inevitable because they feel justified in needing to teach that person a lesson at any cost.
WARNING! WARNING! This can be very dangerous! Why? Well, it can have irreversible effects on their life and the life of those who are in the line of that mis-guided misery and blame. It may be too late for them to self reflect that they should have taken full responsibility for the situation. In other words, the person being harassed by the person doing the constant blaming and berating will be forced to eventually take measures to make it stop. These measures may be subtle or terminal depending on the situation and circumstances of the harassment.
On the News, we are constantly hearing about the boyfriend or girlfriend who shot and killed their partner or husband because they blamed them for their misery. We hear about the shooters who blamed society for their problems and they inevitably cracked and went on a shooting spree. That is why we want to raise awareness about this cause and effect phenomena.
The mind-set of the irresponsible person is that there is someone out there who is responsible. Who might that be? Look at this very statement and combine it with the quote above. Then you realize that you give power away to an illusion, an imaginary someone that in reality must be yourself. There is nobody else to blame; not the politicians, not the boss in the office or the “people on top”. There really is only you who is responsible for your life. If you claim this, then you move to a powerful position.