Dr. Brene Brown conducted a fascinating study on shame and vulnerability. Her findings pointed out that if anyone were to be open and talk about their fears of the shame and guilt they carry deep within, it would open up a whole new world for them. She stated that the more someone held in their shame and guilt, the more toxic it would be for their mind, body, and soul.
Dr. Brown's work has some major positive implications for one's life if you/they accept that almost everyone has experienced events in their lives that have made them feel shameful and guiity. It is these strong emotions that usually block you from the connectedness one yearns for. The block happens when the feelings of shame and guilt keep you from feeling worthy of ________________, you fill in the blank.
Prior to taking this journey of wanting to share more of ourselves with the public at large, we had to do some soul searching and cleansing to remove the blocks of feeling like we weren't worthy of having a phenomenal life, loyal friends, and abundance in our lives, We recognized that if we were going to talk the talk, we would have to walk the walk.
Omar and I sat down and slowly but surely, placed our vulnerabilities out on the table and counseled each other through them. It was terrifying and highly uncomfortable at first, but in order to gain each other's trust and respect, we had to agree to go there and not turn back. Each discussion led to more peeling back of the onion and soon we had found that there was nothing to be ashamed or feel guilty about. Our journey
led us to confront the power of self forgiveness and to fully forgive those that we perceived had hurt us or wronged us in our lives. We accepted that the Divine, God, Source, or the Light however you refer to what you believe, had placed certain people and certain experiences in our lives to help us understand the cleansing power of forgiveness. After fully immersing ourselves in this practice, the feelings of being a "Victim", slowly but surely dissipated.
Please remember that forgiveness and forgetting are two different categories of thought. Through forgiveness, you give yourself the opportunity to be empowered by the feelings of being freed of the power you gave the other person by holding on to feelings of hate, resentment, vengeance, and or ill will. When you give them that much power over you, you dis-connect from your own power to control your own life and to truly focus and what you deserve in life. In other words, having those strong negative feelings toward someone can be the very reason you feel shame and guilt and thus, staying blocked from being worthy of making appropriate decisions in your life. Release yourself from their grip, and live by forgiving yourself and them!
Forgettting or the ability to retain what happened to you is part of the conscious that helps human beings stay safe physically, psychologically, and sprititually! If there is a lesson that was learned from what happened to you, then of course your mind will retain it and use it to prevent any negative further experiences that may disrupt and throw your life into a tailspin that you can't handle. So because you lived the experience, you can choose to empower yourself from it, instead of making the same mistakes that keep you from walking the talk.
Finally, we established that every last one of our amazing mentors, had done the same thing. They told their life story of when they were the most vulnerable and we discovered that once they faced it, they were willing to plow through it and become stronger in their convictions. The shame and guilt turned into guiding strength and energy! That continues to be our aim in life through the work we bring to you.
With that said, "Put a little MaxPower into your life!"