Have you ever been caught off guard by the one you loved with all your heart and soul, when they out of the blue say, "I want a divorce, or I want to break up?" Besides your heart sinking to the floor, the normal immediate reaction for most is to want an explanation as to WHY?
Why do we ask WHY? The reasons vary because all relationships are unique, but the number one reason you want to know why, is so that you can get a chance to fix it, to resolve it, to improve it, to possibly change it, and to save it. We all want the chance we think we deserve to make it better. We want to be able to create something out of whatever is left and maybe patch it up and hopefully give that person what they think is missing in the relationship. We are designed and programmed to want to self preserve and make things ok. Especially when kids are involved.
Does this always work with Love all the time? It works a lot of the time, but Why can't we mend things with the one we think is truly the ONE no matter how hard we try? Well, every human being is also designed to continue to seek for their "ultimate soul mate", whatever that means, but it is usually based on their definition of what that means to them personally. Keep in mind that most people do go into a relationship with good intentions most of the time, but because of themselves, and not because of you, they slowly back away because it just wasn't the journey they were looking for. It was never personal.
The outcome of this is devastating for some people because they don't know how to completely handle a break-up, a divorce. Some people don't know anything different but to give 110% of themselves into the relationship and when the other person backs away, they are crushed because they tend to feel that it was something they did, didn't do, or could have done better so the healing takes longer. All along, it was always about the other person. The other person takes note of your unconditional effort to make the relationship work and maybe, just maybe, they feel that they don't deserve the type of Love and Effort that you are showering them with so they back away.
Relationships are complex and no real instruction manual exists to give you day to day instructions, but they are the only way we know whether or not we can unconditionally love somebody. When you find the one that loves you unconditionally and the one that will stay by your side forever, you are sincerely blessed! But in the mean time, life will go on, and if that break up comes your way- have a support system in place to help you make it through the rough and trying times.
Find comfort in positive friends, family, pets, activities, and or church. Treat yourself to a life coaching session or go see a therapist for a bit of venting. We all need it and we all are constantly learning about ourselves. You will be Okay, and you will prevail.
With that said, "Put a little MaxPower into your life!"
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